Growth Strategy #53: The Art of Surrender

Growth Strategy #53: The Art of Surrender

This week I have been exploring the topic of surrender because of a conversation I had with my daughter.  At the wise age of 20, she shared that she was going to stress less about her university work, do her best, and leave the rest to God.   This reminded me of times in my life when I have done the same when I have 'let go and let God'. Trusting that all is and will be well.  

Surrendering is not about giving up—it’s about accepting what is and creating space for new possibilities to emerge in our lives.

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We are often taught that hard work, determination, and perseverance are the only way to succeed. However, surrender can be a powerful tool to help you achieve your goals with far less effort than you'd expect. Oprah has spoken about surrender as a crucial part of her success and has interviewed other successful people like Eckhart Tolle who champion surrender as a way of being. Let's take a look at how it works.

When I started out in business, I always pushed myself to achieve more, but never felt satisfied. One day, when things seemed like it was falling apart I decided to take a step back and let go.  I realized that my constant need to control every aspect of my business and my life was holding me back.   I wanted success my way, and I wanted it now and when it did not come quickly enough, I got very very stressed.  

As I started to let go of the need to control everything, I began to feel the sense of freedom and lightness I had experienced when I was younger and my faith was stronger.  By surrendering control, I was allowing myself to be more present in the moment, enjoying the journey, rather than just focusing on the destination.

What Is Surrender?
Surrender means letting go of the need to control or manipulate external events or situations. It is an acceptance of what is and an understanding that we cannot control external circumstances, but we can control our response to them.

This means allowing ourselves to accept whatever comes our way and trusting that things will work out for the best in the end. In other words, surrendering does not mean giving up—it means finding peace with what is and seeing it as part of a larger process of personal growth.

Surrendering can be incredibly liberating; it allows us to let go of our expectations and attachments so that we can focus on enjoying life instead of struggling against it.

By letting go of our need for control, we create space for unexpected possibilities and new beginnings—something which would not have been possible if we had remained fixated on trying to force certain outcomes into existence.

Finally, by allowing ourselves to surrender rather than fight against difficult circumstances, we free up energy which can then be used towards positive pursuits such as self-care and developing meaningful relationships with others.

Tips for Surrendering Control

  • Practice mindfulness: Being present in the moment can help you let go of your need to control every aspect of your life.
  • Learn to trust yourself: Trusting that you can handle whatever comes your way can help you let go of control.
  • Take a break: Sometimes stepping away from a situation can help you see it more clearly and let go of the need to control it.
  • Talk to someone: Sometimes talking through a situation with someone can help you gain perspective and let go of control.

Ultimately, surrendering control is about learning to trust the flow of life. It’s about recognizing that we are not in control of everything and that sometimes the best course of action is to let go and trust that things will work out for the best.

There are several experts and authors who speak and write about the concept of surrender in different contexts.
Eckhart Tolle is a spiritual teacher and author who has written extensively about the power of surrender in his books, including "The Power of Now" and "A New Earth."
Brené Brown is a researcher and author who has written about the importance of surrendering control in her book "Rising Strong."
Pema Chödrön is a Buddhist nun and author who has written about the concept of surrender in many of her books, including "When Things Fall Apart" and "The Places That Scare You."
Wayne Dyer is a self-help author and motivational speaker who has spoken about the power of surrender in his books and speeches.
Deepak Chopra is an author, physician, and alternative medicine advocate who has written about the concept of surrender in many of his books including "The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success" and "The Spontaneous Fulfillment of Desire".

For me, when the going gets tough, I get to a point, when I remember the art of surrender. When used correctly, surrendering can be an incredibly powerful tool in your growth strategy; it allows you to let go of attachment and fear so that you can focus on enjoying life’s journey instead of struggling against it.

The next time you feel like things are getting too difficult or stressful, try taking a step back and surrendering—you might be surprised at how much easier things can become.

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